1. Handle arguments differently

Every marriage and relationship has arguments, but
it’s how you handle them that’s most important. At
Junior High School, I said ‘no’ to drugs. At my
wedding altar, I said ‘no’ to fighting.

Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No” anti-drug campaign was a
huge success. Kids made a verbal commitment and a
mental stance to avoid drugs before they were even
of the age to be tempted. When they were introduced
to drugs, they knew they could “just say no” and
not feel alone. Fighting is NOT harmless. It’s
addictive and, if continued, is likely to cause
irreparable damage. Certainly there are times when
emotions get wrinkled, and the natural inclination
is to blow your top. I sometimes have to bite my
tongue so I don’t say something I would regret
later (since when is self-control a bad thing?)

Having a naturally calm personality has admittedly
made it easier for me to think before I speak than
it is for some people. But that shouldn’t stop
anyone from trying.

2. How to make him listen

In most relationships, a polite and sincere request
gets much greater results than if you yell, nag or
complain.

For example, the other day Athena saw my
bath towel on the middle of our bedroom floor. She
said “you might want to hang up your towel or it
won’t dry out in time for your shower tomorrow.”
When my clothes pile up outside of the hamper, she
sweetly says, “it would really help me out a lot if
you put your dirty clothes in the hamper.”

She was exhausted one morning and when Ashton (then
five months old) began to stir, she turned over to me
and asked if I wanted to “get up and have a little
morning playtime with Ashton.” That was a much
nicer way of asking me to help her out than saying,
“Why am I the one who always gets up early to take
care of YOUR son? I think it is YOUR turn for a
change.”

Athena always thinks of nice ways to ask me to help
out or to stop doing something irritating.

3. Turn gossip and bashing into praise

No one’s perfect. When wives get together and the
conversation turns to complaining about “what their
husbands do,” or male bashing in general, refuse to
participate.

It shows that you respect and value your husband.

For a man, few things are more devastating than to
have his wife criticize him in front of friends. Instead,
when a “gripe session” gets going, make it a point to
start sharing some of his good qualities. Usually, this
alone will steer the conversation into a positive direction
and help your friends to also praise their husbands
– which in turn helps them to respect and
appreciate them more too.

Knowing that my wife refuses to belittle me in front of
friends makes me love and respect her even more.

4. Change your routine of life

After a few months or years, most couples get into
a comfortable pattern where they always do the same
things. Same dinner / movie dates, same sexual
routine and same behaviors. You can rekindle some
of that magic and keep your marriage magical by
simply paying attention to these three important
areas:

1. Go on creative dates – agree to go out and do
something you’ve never done before once every week,
fortnight or month. It doesn’t really matter what
you do, but it’s important to commit and do this
constantly. Want some ideas? Go to a winery,
museum, art gallery, carnival, the beach, or have a
picnic in a park.

2. Spice things up under the sheets – try a new
position, technique or location. Wear some nice
lingerie or introduce some new toys into the
bedroom.

3. Change up the norm – buy him a gift just to say
“I love you,” give him a surprise quickie before
work, a nice massage, set up a scavenger hunt that
shows how much you care about him with a gift at
the end.

5. Face your money issues and debts

One of the biggest problems facing couples today is
the huge amount of debt they bring into their
marriage. Not only are there more divorces, couples
are calling it quits much earlier in their marriage
than ever before. Here are some ideas to get your
debt and money issues under control.

1. Sit down and prioritize all aspects of your
family budget together. Only when you analyze your
spending habits will you fully realize where you
are wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talk
about your goals and dreams.

2. Realize that frivolously spending money can be a
sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.

3. If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a
fancier car, ask yourself why.

4. Take a quick inventory of all the items you own
but could really live without. Consider how much
you paid for them. What if you didn’t buy those
items and had all that money in savings instead?
Would it make a difference in how you view your
job, your family and your future?

About the Author:

Michael Webb’s latest book, “Getting Him Back”
provides you with a step-by-step plan to get your
ex-husband back, help heal your marriage and even
prevent a divorce. For all the details, visit
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